The first memory to be written down was one that my mother had told us
many times over the years. It never fails to move me to tears. It’s a powerful
reminder that for many people, Christmas is not a time of joy, but rather a
holiday that is filled with pain and personal loss. I think it is also a testament to a young girl who, wise beyond her years, understood that, despite what happens to
us, life must go on. To me, it speaks volumes not only about the amazing strength of my mother, but also about the true meaning of
Christmas.
Here is my mother’s story in her own words:
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Catharine |
Back in December, 1939, my oldest sister Catharine, who was almost
fifteen years old, developed a boil on her chin. Dad took her to the doctor. He
said to bathe her chin with hot water and salt to try and bring the boil to a
head. Well, her face swelled up and she was taken to the hospital on Monday, December
19.
There was no penicillin or other drugs to help. Nor was there a blood
bank back then. Dad, his brothers Harvey and Ozzie and the Harris boys all gave
blood which the doctor gave to Catharine trying to clear the poison. She had
blood poisoning, then lockjaw. A terrible thing. Mom and Dad stayed there for
four days.
Catharine died on Thursday, December 22, 1939. The funeral was held at
our house. I had never seen so many flowers. The room was packed with them. So many
people too. The house was filled with people, upstairs and down; the barn too.
She was buried December 24. It was a green Christmas that year, very mild, and
I wore my spring coat as I only had a snowsuit.
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Catharine and Aunt Anne |
Our Christmas was never the same again. We lost my grandma on October
6, 1939 and then, Catharine. Catharine often said after Grandma died, “I don’t
know how I’ll get along without my Grandma.” It was almost like it was to be—that
she went to be with her in heaven.
It was the saddest Christmas that year. We went to Aunt Anne’s. She
kept Rae, age 2, while Catharine was in the hospital.
The next year, 1940, Dad
didn’t feel like cutting a tree for Christmas. I can remember going out with a
handsaw and cutting branches off these huge evergreen trees that stood in a row
along the back lane. I tied them together with twine and made a tree. I was
twelve years old at the time. We decorated it and it looked pretty good.